Important Things to Consider Before Getting Married

by admin on July 15, 2011
things to consider before marriage

Most of the time people seem so gung hoe about getting married, believing it will all be peaches and cream. Well, first and foremost marriage takes work, there’s no way around it. It will not be easy, it will not be like your college days, get real. But it can be an awesome experience with more fun times than you can shake a stick at if you take a few steps BEFORE you take the plunge.

Talk about children – Believe it or not this is one of the biggest mistakes newlyweds make. They peruse over the child subject but never actually discuss it in depth. Now you tell me what happens when one of you wants kids and the other is adminantly against having children. World war 3 is what happens.

Then on top of that you have the nasty divorce and court crap to go through. Who wants that? No one as far as I know, so do both of yourselves a favor and talk about having children BEFORE you walk down that isle.

Discuss finances – This is another big conversation that has and will continue to lead to divorce if people don’t take the time to talk about it. You two should try and decide (realistically of course) what kind of lifestyle you want. If you’re not a millionaire then don’t plan for a summer home in the Hamptons.

Who is going to bring home the bacon? One of you? Both of you? Who will be spending the majority of the money? What will it be on? Do you need a set budget to stay afloat?

Serious questions that deserve serious attention and serious answers. Get to talking or hire a lawyer. You’ll need a good divorce one.

Prenup? - Dunt Dunt Duuuuuhhhhh the huge question, should we get a prenup? Honestly that depends on your personal situation but if either one of you feels it may be necessary then you should talk about it. What if the man comes in the marriage with a whole lot and the woman comes into it with nothing?

At that point it doesn’t seem fair that the man loses half his stuff if the marriage doesn’t work out. Now this is obviously void in cases of adultery or spousal abuse, but irreconcilable differences are the leading cause of divorce these days. That means if you grow apart then she still gets half your stuff. Go over things, and talk about it. A conversation can’t hurt, but leaving things unsaid can.

Now a days it seems as though marriage is more of a joke, or a fun thing to do for a couple months. But what the celebs aren’t telling us is how much money and time and grief it costs to go through. If you truly want to marry someone then you need to have these big discussions, trust me they could literally make or break your marriage if you let them sit un-discussed. Don’t put yourself through that nonsense.

  • http://www.fulltimesexyman.com/ Attractive Man

    Nice article for anyone who is interested in getting married, not my case lol. Although I would like to add something else, which I consider very important.

    Before you get marry, you should spend a few months living together. Because if you don’t, then when you do, you never know you might have some special suprises. Atleast this way you know what you are waiting for :)

    Thanks good stuff.

  • Guest

    Not only spend some time living together, but also go on a trip/vacation together (1 to 2 weeks).

    It’s a good indicator as how well will you understand each other and work as a team.

  • Msc

    Marriage, when you remove all the BS, is simply a contract in which the man typically gets screwed – and not in a good way.

  • Avgjoe

    Why do you assume that the man will go into the marriage with more finances than the woman? Also, why do you assume that the marriage will involve a man and a woman?

    • Michael P

      Maybe the assumption is based on the fact that 99.9% of marriages are between a man and woman. Even if it’s between same sex, or the woman has more money, everything still applies

    • ShieldsCW

      Yeah! And why do you assume that your readers live in a society where marriage is an institution?
      Also, why do you assume that your readers can actually read by using letters in your article?

  • doughty john

    What do I want??

    1.Scrap all the existing divorce or 50-50 laws & alimony:

    {{Oops,this looks like I am asking too much…this should be sending feminists pissing in their pants}}

    * If a man files divorce becoz the woman refuses to listen to the man,refuses to understand his view point, does everything opposite or contrary to what he says or shows scant respect for his thinking & well being, then he has every right to kick the bitch out without paying a dime……

    The state should NOT try to rescue or bail her out…….

    * If a man files divorce, even when the woman is loyal, faithful& does everything to please the man,then the case might be closed by paying appropriate monthly or annually alimony amount to the woman…..

    But seldom will a man try to divorce such a woman & even if he has a one night stand up or extra marital affair, it would be preposterous or foolish on his part to give up such a woman…………

    The woman does not have the right to claim anything else.

    I say fuck with the 50-50 property division,bank accounts etc……I say fuck with 50-50 mutual respect becoz most of the time, woman rarely bring 50-50 to the table……

    *If a woman files divorce, as is the case most of the time,

    becoz she is unhappy with the man or the man is unable to fulfill her needs & wants, then she can break her relationship without claiming anything from man & fending for herself by making her own source of income……

    The man is NOT obligated to bail her out, since he had NOT filed for divorce….simple as that.

    2.Scrap all the existing DV laws:

    The laws states….. the manipulated version…..it is all right for a woman to become violent against man but it is not acceptable for a man to defend himself from such type of woman.

    Thus it is okay or acceptable for a woman to tease, taunt,

    scold,chide,heap malice & scorn,spite & emasculate,pass caustic & sarcastic remarks,abuse verbally & if that does not work….. become violent to get her way across & pray what a man should do in such situation……

    Become buddha & stay mum & quiet without losing sanity

    or clench his fists & land a punch on her face resulting in the woman dialling 911 & the man heading towards the nearest state prison……

    The reason why a man becomes violent is not because he

    chose or wanted to…..but he was provoked & instigated

    beyond a certain point & since the bitch simply refused or rather chose NOT to listen to him, did not make an effort to understand his viewpoint or his thinking…..he was left with NO other choice…..

    3.Scrap all the existing child support laws:

    If the woman chose to keep children with herself, then it is her decision & it is her responsibility to look after them.

    She should NOT claim anything from her man.If the man

    decides to send financial assistance,then well & good but man is NO way obligated to support her.

    It becomes a man’s obligation & responsibility only when he gets to keep his children.

    Further more there is NO way to prevent the woman from misusing it.The woman could very well use the money for her own needs under the excuse of supporting his kids…..

  • Keith

    “Important Things to Consider Before Getting Married”.

    1. Is she an American woman?
    2. If the answer is YES, then DO NOT marry her!! You will get burned! It will be the biggest mistake of your life! Choose carefully and marry ONLY a foreign woman. Warning given.

  • WannaGObackINtime

    I’ve been married over 10 years and can tell you all – prostitutes give you WAY more happiness.

    Imagine nagging every morning, complaining every evening, hating going home to a house you pay for, being denied sex, but she flirts with other men AND you know she has cheated on you in the past. Th list goes on. And the whole time to get sex she has to be in the mood and happy (problem is is that the smallest problem makes them unhappy!)

    It always starts good when they are young, beautiful and nice to you, but eventually they ALL change and demand more while you get less. Also keep in mind as they become less attractive, you become more attractive. Just stay in shape and things will be good.

    I’m about to tell my wife in the next few days I want a divorce when really I have wanted one for years. I’ve managed to keep it together for years for my kids but now I’m going insane and I can feel it which is good for no one. And for all you bitches out there who want to blame me, let me tell you this. I’m the cleaner. I’m the cook (for the vast majority). I buy her expensive gifts and send flowers and countless other things to make her happy. I make her orgasm EVERYtime we have sex. BJs are not in her vocabulary but gets pissed when I dont eat her out. On top of that I dont smoke or drink and workout/run/train daily. She smokes and drinks daily and refuses to even go for a walk except when summer is coming and she wants to put on a bikini to show her ass in (which is out of shape now but she is in denial). And what do i get in return? A daily bitchy attitude and her constant flirting that’s what ! I find that the men like me who treat their wives like queens suffer the most because the wife thinks she has “mastered” him and her pussy is platinum. WRONG. Its love you dumb bitches….well at least it was.

    Remember single men: ALL married men have been single, but not ONE single man has been married. And 99% of married men have the SAME depressing story. They kill your self-esteem, your spirit, and sometimes even your sex drive.

    DO NOT GET MARRIED

    And if you positively must, make sure she has a good relationship with her father, because if not she will most likely end up being a cheater. I’m telling you this from years of open conversation with other married idiots like myself. Keep your independence, keep your money, keep your pride, but most of all – KEEP YOUR SANITY

  • AdamBomb1701

    Where is it that a man losing half his stuff is void in cases of adultery? My ex (we’ve been divorced for 10 years) gets alimony, child support (I’m still paying, even though my son is almost 24) and a piece of my pension when I retire. And, she cheated on me with men and women. I should have seen it coming; we went on vacations together, and her behavior was less than desirable. In fact, I went out to m car, to check on a transmission leak. She sulked for hours, because I wasn’t paying attention to her. All the warning signs were there, and my mother warned me not to marry her; she saw the same behavior from her brother’s wife. Of course, her cheating and everything else that was wrong in our marriage was my fault; nothing was ever hers. The moral here is – Always listen to your mother. Or just plain common sense. I didn’t, and I’m paying through the nose now.